Why can’t I stop thinking of him?

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Can’t get him off your mind?, Can’t stop thinking about him even though you need to? Read This. This article on romance advice will help you so much.

When it is time to call it quits and move on so that you can find Mr. Right, Your next soul mate, or you just have to give up on a bad relationship so you can move forward it can be very difficult. Sometimes it is very hard to stop thinking about him or her and you also sometimes wonder why. You will be driving, working, shopping, and all of a sudden or start thinking about him even when you are trying to get him out of your mind and forget the past. Why can’t you stop? What is going on?

The truth is that this is not all your doing. It is not you going crazy, it is not you being obsessed, it is not you that won’t let go, it is him thinking of you. Yes, that is in many cases the problem. You must understand that even when you get out of a bad relationship and you know it won’t work, or it is over for whatever reason there are still connections going on. I call them karmic connections or vibrational connections.

These connections are the residue of the vibrational connection power and love that you both had. It is easy to say that this is the end but you can’t turn off feelings like a light switch and neither can he. He is still in many cases thinking of you and what you are doing is picking up his vibrations of when he thinks of you. Look at this as a radio, you receive and transmit feelings back and forth between each other. When he thinks about you that residual vibrational transmission is received by you and translated into thoughts about him.

The problem with all of this aside from the fact that it is driving you crazy is that until you clear your mind of this person you can’t really move on. It makes it very hard to meet the next man, other men will feel him still in your head, and you may wind up missing out on Mr. right or destroying another relationship. Now you are probably understanding what is happening and wondering what should I do? You can’t stop him from thinking about you, you are trying hard to forget him, you want to move on, but the other person is hurting your chances because he is keeping himself on your mind and sometimes even in real life with those calls for no real reason or other dumb things us men do.

I have a very quick lesson to share with you that will help “train your brain” to block his thoughts and signals to you, or at the very least, help you to stop thinking about him quite so often. I call this lesson The Blank Wall. Please read below and use it each and every time you start to think of this person.

When you start to feel him or her, or you start thinking of him or her, I want you to as quickly as possible start to stare at the nearest white or light-colored wall. Now I want you to pretend that you see a small red dot on that wall. Allow that red dot to be there and watch as it slowly grows bigger and bigger. Focus on it getting larger and larger until it covers the entire wall. Turn the wall red and blackout his thoughts and the thoughts you are feeling about him. Do this each and every time. If your driving at the time, then please be careful, do it in your head please don’t stare at a wall instead of the road but you can just focus on the road and the white line on the road.
The idea behind this amazing mind trick is to train your mind by tricking it into thinking about the red dot that is now covering the wall, instead of the thoughts of him. If you do this enough times eventually, when he starts to pop into your head, you will start to think of the red dot and red wall instead. that red wall, by the way, is your new path to a great new love.

This will help you so very much. It takes time to put someone you cared for or care about behind you. It is not an on-off switch, more like a dimmer switch, and in reality, only time will do the final part of the job for you. It is so important to understand a few things. First, you can’t move ahead until you leave the past where it belongs, and that is in the past. You must get clear first.

The other thing you need to get a handle on is that you are unhappy at this point because you have lost someone, and most people, both men, and women think right away, that the only way to get happy is to find someone else to replace the person you lost. The truth is this does not work. You cant get Happy by using someone else to make you happy. You need to get yourself Happy first. You need to forget about the next relationship for a while and concentrate on being happy alone.

Find new things to do that you enjoy. Visit a museum, read a book at the library, improve your health by changing the way you cook, the way you exercise, add things to your life until you are happy by yourself then and only then will the right person come into your life.
Not only will you find the right person but that person will almost fall from the air into your lap. Yes, you have to have exposure. I have had many people say to me “Andrew when will meet the next man” I ask them if they go out or if they have friends they associate with, if they try the online approach, and many people answer me no. I say to them, well if you are not seen or heard, and you just stay home waiting, then you better hope that the pizza delivery man and yourself hit it off. But that is another story altogether.

This is about forgetting the bad past, making yourself happy, and then and only then, taking the time and the effort to make that quest for the right person. You may even have to kiss a few more frogs to get to the prince but you will get to that prince. It is not even as slow as it sounds and it happens very quickly, sometimes when you least expect it and in the midst of one of your new hobbies or adventures that you added in your life. Changes, positive changes, signals karma to send you even more positive changes, all you have to do is clear the decks and start the process. I am here to help.

It is also important to have what I call the two basics in your life. The first is a job, not any old job, but one you love, or at the very least like.

If you don’t need to work find something to do that you are passionate about, you must have a life for someone to be interested in you. The second is your HOMEBASE, yes I capitalized it because this is important. It may be your house, your apartment, your family’s place, or yes even a cardboard box, as long as you are happy there, and can call it your home. Get those first, and then you will be all set to make things happen so that you can get the most important thing in the world and that my fellow reader is what I have been told is “True Love”, or your perfect partner, one of your many soulmates, yes we have more than just one, and pure happiness. Just start moving forward and stop thinking about him already.

True Love is real, it is out there, and you can have it. I try not to use the word love as it means many different things to many different people, and in fact, you cant actually love another because love is a feeling, but we get what you mean, after all, we, yes you and me, are hopeful romantics. I have helped so many people find this in their lives and I can help you as well. If you have not spoken to me yet and you have a relationship, romance, love life problem, or anything in between including making your existing relationship better, then I urge you to call or chat with me right away. I read to help people. I help many people and could tell you so many stories that would knock your socks off about people I have spoken to that, in the beginning, thought that they would never find true love or happiness. Those people are now smiling and whistling every day. Please, read my reviews, and then call or chat with me and see for yourself the difference I can make in your life.
I am 100% honest and upfront, I never sugar coat, I can be blunt, but always gentle, the gentle truth, and honest, direct answers. I am also very accurate, and very good as advisors, and psychic’s go. I am also a man and not only can I read what the man you want to know about is thinking and feeling about you, but I can interpret those thoughts and feelings much better than women because well, I am a male Psychic.


My clients call me “The Romance Psychic” and it is for a very good reason. If you are new give me a call today, mention my new client special and I will send you 5 free minutes if you spend 10 or more minutes with me. I never charge my family of clients for email followups or email questions, and I like to be kept in the loop after your reading with me so I can continue to help you until you get to that special place, find that special guy, and obtain true love and happiness. I hope this will help many of you.


Love and Light
PsychicAndrew
“The Romance Psychic”

What Is Love?

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The word love is mostly used according to the first definition given in the dictionary. Dictionaries vary but this is what the majority says.

An intense feeling of deep affection.” In other words, love is what one feels.  You may have very strong feelings about them, you may even believe you cannot live without them, but you do not love them.

That is because love is a feeling and in the definition of a noun:

noun: love; plural noun: Loves

Many people think love is something you can do to another person, or they talk about, “True Love” or “Unconditional Love”. 

The word “unconditional” means that there are no expectations or limitations or even parameters that are set. This is so hard for a human being. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren’t good at that. But this word love gets thrown around so much. people always ask me, “Does He Love Me?”, well that depends on what love means to you, your definition, what that Feeling means to you. Think of love as a feeling and then you can set your relationship goals better.and he can not in definition, Love you, he can make you feel loved, and you can make him feel loved, but that’s where this word “love” starts to get confusing.

Try to think about things in the construct of feelings. Does he feel this way about me? or that way about me? does he have the intention to go further? Questions phrased, or asked in that way, are better than asking about a word that at best, has many different definitions, and we set up these definitions of that word Love in our heads. These definitions that we set up in our heads, well, each version or feelings of love in our minds is always different in some part at least, than the other person’s meaning or feelings of love, so they are never the same. But that’s fine. 

When we say “Does He Love Me?” 

What we mean is does he have an intense feeling of attraction or deep affection. Does he think of me? does he care about me?

You want to know how he feels about you, not really if he loves you because that’s such an all-encompassing word, it just means so many things to so many different people, that I don’t even like to use it in my readings.

The Verb Definition of Love is similarly small and confusing because its not really an action word. You can’t really love someone. You can make them feel loved, you can feel loved by them, as long as they make you feel that way, you can have this amazing connection and feelings when you are around them, or even talking to them, You can have the feelings, that’s fine, but consider for now at least that the word Love is a huge word that shouldn’t even have a definition when it comes to hopefull, yes hopefull, not hopeless, romantics like me and you. Yes, I am a romantic so you can understand why I want to help as many people find their true partner in life.

There are many types of love if you want to get technical

The four main love types are as follows:

Storge, which is an empathy bond established between people based on caring about how they feel. Such as when you just got divorced or broke off a relationship. Be careful of this love. two people hurting does not usually turn into two people happy, I’m sorry it just doesn’t, most people need time to heal and stand on their own two feet before getting into another relationship.

When you have, or try to have, a relationship that started or is based on Empathy it usually winds up failing or never getting started.

This is just Storge: an empathy bond so make sure you check your feelings and we check him if this is a situation your in now.

The Next Love Type is Philia.

Philia is a love based on a friendship bond. This is when you have this person who may have started out as your friend, maybe a friend from the past, but you start talking, chatting, texting, and before you know it you are hanging out and you have this best friend. it’s just not the type of love feeling that you want now, is it? You may have grown other types of romantic feelings for him or her. Nobody wants to be in the”friend zone” so be careful not to spend too much time as their friend before getting to what you hopefully want, the next stage, romantic feelings.

I can, and have helped so many, that are in this stage, either get their man or move on to some other person that does not just want a friend only but wants a lover, a romantic partner, a relationship based on more than just friendship. unless you seriously just want to be friends, but I have done so many psychic love and relationship readings on this subject, that it really is mostly people that started to “Fall”, for their friend, or had other motives, to begin with.

The Next Type Of Love Is Eros

Eros is what is called romantic love. based on no not LOVE, but feelings, just different types of feelings the type of feelings that you do want. Those feelings include but are not limited to, sexual and attraction feelings and thoughts, romantic thoughts and ideas of being close, the feeling that being together is better than not being together. This is Called Eros love and with a man, it usually starts off with feelings of sexuality, attraction, and other physical attributes. It is the way men start off, we fantasize we do not have the ability to romanticize from the start so this is how we start out and this is exactly the feeling you want from a man you just started out with months.

The last and my personal favorite type of love is Agape.

Agape is universal love, such as the love for strangers, nature, or God. Unlike storge, it does not depend on filiation or familiarity. It is the “Spiritual Love” the love we all hope we can attain.

agape can be said to encompass the modern concept of altruism, defined as an unselfish concern for others, saint-like concern, caring about others beyond and above yourself. when you can attain this type of love, this feeling, usually all the things you want in life, and in love, just fall into place. This is what you should think of when you say, love.

Feelings like love, yes that is what you mostly feel. When we connect to another in such a strong way, that word just pop’s up.

When asking about a man or woman, ask about feelings, not love. Feelings are something you can explain in a few words. This whole “L” word can just confuse things as love is just too many feelings, and has so many definitions, made by so many different people, I think sometimes it can be very overused. I’d rather a man tell you how he feels about you, and that he cares about you, and that you make him feel great when you are with him. I want all that much more than a word called love. “I Love You”. You may want to hear those words but those words will get you in deep. Look for the feelings, not so much the words, follow his actions also, ignore most of what men say especially in the beginning and be careful not to throw the love word.

love and light,
Psychic Andrew

Virtual Relationships

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I wanted to write a little about a common and new phenomenon I call a Virtual Relationship. You know, when you meet someone online and wind up having communication via chat or some other online service rather than in real life. It’s simple even if you think it is not. Read the full article below and save yourself from this. Now is the time and you are reading this for a reason. The reason is for you to know the truth even if you can not accept it yet.

I call it a “Virtual Relationship” because it is just that. It most certainly is not a real relationship. The word real implies that there would be an actual person or persons in the relationship and since you have not met them in real life, and you are not interacting with them in real places, or maybe you may have met once, and everything now is mostly in text, well that’s not real,
and definitely not IRL “In Real Life”. If you cant see, touch, smell and feel them, then by pure definition, the relationship is not real and hence a virtual or pseudo-relationship.

I wanted to get this in your mind first so that if you are in one of these virtual relationships, you can start to realize that you’re not in a real relationship at all. If you just met this person online, or if its less than a month old then it is ok, but it is also time to meet them and start a relationship in person. If you have been in this virtual relationship for more than a month, or maybe even much longer than that, then you need to understand that this is not going anywhere. You are living in a delusionary state. You may get nice feelings and it may even take up your time, you may even think you have feelings for this virtual person but it’s not real, and it won’t go anywhere, other than online, kind of like a video game.

The fact is that you can’t know this person you have not yet even met. No hugs, no touches, no contact, well no real relationship, especially since men, in general, do not grow feelings after a certain point unless they are with you in person. You may think you have feelings but they are not real, they cant be. You have never met, never really touched, we are human and we need touch. No computer, phone, or video screen can replace the feeling of touch, the feel of a hug, the scent of a man or woman, the kiss, the kiss I mean can you be in a relationship without the kiss?

If you want a real relationship this has to stop, it must be real or you need to let this go and abandon this hypnotic feeling, this addictive and dangerous game that you think is a relationship. You are caught up in this and It will eventually end, it will never become real and you will be hurt. Please call or chat with me now, let’s get your situation read, true love and romance readings from a Male Master Psychic.

You are also wasting valuable time that could be used to meet the man or woman of your dreams. A real person that can hold you, touch you, comfort you with his or her hands. that amazing special feeling only a real person can provide. That hug, that kiss, that intimate physical moment that you are not getting from this online ego stroke, that you are either giving to someone or maybe even getting from someone, It may feel nice for a moment but it is not a relationship. Be careful.
You will more than likely, especially if your female, run past him in the feelings department. Women are better than us men and can romanticize, the best men can do is a quick minute of fantasizing. Not the same so for the most part, you as a female are growing feelings while he as a man, is not. We, as men, need real-life to grow feelings. We need the touch, the feel, and such, we are not as good as you women.

It is time to tell the other person that it is real life or nothing at all. I know this may be hard to do, hard to cope with or understand, but like I stated before it can be an addiction, even an obsession, and just like any drug when the good feeling is over, you will crash and burn.
Sort things out now before it is too late, and you wind up going through withdrawals. Stop wasting your life. It is now time to start moving toward a real relationship. The person on the other end of whatever device you are using to communicate is not real. They are not real because you can not touch them and they can not touch you. Many things are missing from this relationship if you want to call it that, but this is one true test. If you can’t touch them, hug them, kiss them, hold them, they are not real. It is as simple as that.

More and more I hear from my clients that they are in one of these “Virtual Relationships” and it hurts because nothing has ever come from one of these type relationships, I’m not talking about meeting someone online, I’m talking about a long term, more than a month or so, of having this communication and sort of sharing of feelings in a completely virtual way, such as text, phone, or social media I have read for so many that at this point the sample rate, the number of women and yes men that have come to me with this problem is very high, in the thousands.

Never, ok once maybe in 30 thousand readings, but pretty much never have any of these purely virtual situations turned into real relationships, if they run on longer than a month or so, it is doomed to fail. If they can’t see you in person then they can’t be in a real relationship. If they can’t afford a cheap airline ticket they are not ready for life especially a relationship. If a man wants to see you he will do more than get on a plane, I assure you of that. This is not meeting someone online this is more, this is wanting something so bad that you settle for so much less, and that’s not healthy, and won’t get you to what you want. That real-life partner. In real life not virtual.

True love, yes that word again, but let’s use it here, and companionship must end in real life. It may start virtually, maybe for a short time. I suggest a month at the very most since people do meet online these days as we are very busy, and well let’s face it, we are in new times where we do reach out into the land of the internet to help us get things started. Getting started is one thing, meeting someone online is fine. However, you have to be able to interact in reality, in the real as I like to tell people. A person thousands of miles away may not be a good starter. We will talk about “Good Starters” in another article I will post here later. You do need to start with someone “ready” when you are looking for a real relationship, so you need to start with “Good Starters”. I think you get the idea. men that well have the ability and time, and even more importantly they must want to be with you in person, IRL, In Real Life.

Dinner, or just coffee to start, dates, fun times, a real person by your side. That is the goal of most people. If you are in one of these virtual relationships it is time to take stock. It’s probably even time to end it now. Maybe you tell the other person that you need real or you have to say goodbye, who knows. I can help you with that. that is exactly what a real psychic romance and relationship reading is all about.

You can call me and let me help you with this. I’m here for you.
It is time to start moving forward again because you are stalled, you are frozen in this game, and its time to end the game and get real about your life. Love, and companionship, in real life, with a real person, is an amazing thing, and you can have that, but you can’t waste your time playing games. let us start now give me a call or chat.

Love and light,
Psychic Andrew

Who calls who first

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THE MYTH ABOUT CALLING YOUR MAN FIRST
Should I call him? We just had a fight what should I do?
Wait for him to call? How long should I wait?

I decided to post this because of the increasing amount of questions on this subject. I want to just say upfront that all situations are unique that’s why people call me, however, this is generally what you should or should not do when it comes to making “First Contact”. Sounds scary right? Not so much though if you just figure out a few things and I thought maybe this post would help you do just that.

I have heard from many of my female clients that they have either heard from friends or other advisors that it is always best to wait for your man to call you, that after a fight, disagreement, or even after a date that you should not call him first. Notice all the different scenarios you could be in, of what to do. This is a myth, so pay close attention. Good stuff here, and all with a male point of view.

Before I begin I want to make it clear that there are many instances when you must go silent. This should not be confused with waiting for him to call. There are times when you can’t call because a man may feel threatened or a man may feel too pressured or overwhelmed by your call, but these times are not what I am talking about.

I’m talking about that theory, that myth, that advice given, so many times, that says he needs to call you, pursue you, make him wait, or that he needs to make the first move. Most of this is about footing, who has the upper hand in the relationship, who bends first. This is ridiculous. This in most cases, not all, but in most, is the exact opposite of what you should be doing. Men do not always realize that you have feelings for them despite things you have said or done.

Men are not as smart as you women, remember, think idiots and you would have us down. It is important to build them, us men, up, to reassure them that you do like them and one of the best ways to do this is by calling them. So in that instance call him. Don’t call till your fingers are blue, but it is ok to call the next day and say you had a great time last night, or if you had an argument, well sometimes a man feels a bit worried and will go quiet, and then a nice call or text saying hey you, kisses, or something like that would be perfect.

There are times, however, as I mentioned before, when you may not want to call a man. If he has been giving you the cold shoulder or seems like he is ghosting you, or backing away. In that instance, it is usually better to not chase, but again a quick reading of him first will tell the story. In this situation in general, let him start missing you more. If he is not missing you enough to call, than that a tell. We will get into what I call “Relationship Tells” later in another post.

Sometimes though for long term goals, and putting yourself in a situation where you are noticed more, it is important to not make that call first. Sometimes you must resist that feeling to start a conversation going or at least try to, by calling first, texting, posting or even something small like sending a smiley face in text. You have to know where you are in your relationship, romance or marriage at all times, but when you are in a pinch you can see that there are many reasons that you should call first, I just don’t like hearing that same thing over and over again, as a man, and as I hear from so many male friends, we do like when women call or texts us at certain times, and within a limit.

When your man is purposely not calling you, mainly to see if he can get away with it, and make you call first, then you have to resist the feeling to call. In this situation, it will only hurt any chances you have with him, or worsen a bad situation, but again make a call to me or another great psychic first just to see what’s going on with him. In this case however its usually better not to get caught in this trap. Don’t call first.

Now it is also important to think about things and take a moment before reaching for that phone. You need to think about your man,
women run faster in romance then men do. He might not have the same level of feelings you do, especially if this is new, men are just slower at getting feelings going that’s all. This is where the don’t call him first may come in. Men want what they can’t have so easily. This is where they have to do the chasing, the calling first, and get themselves in the mind frame that is closer to where your mind is when it comes to you and him and romance.

The man will sometimes sit and wait for your call. Sometimes when following the rule of not calling first you destroy any hope of ever speaking with him again. Now I also do realize that sometimes you don’t want to call first because you don’t want to be rejected, or rejected again, or feel that you’re going to get a negative response, and this I can understand but think for a moment if you have not spoken to your man in a few days and it seems as though he is not going to call you, then what in the world do you have to lose by calling him. He is already not with you, he has already gone silent, so what is the worst that can happen, you can put yourself in the same situation your in now, no contact. But and this is the big part of this information, if you do take the plunge and make that call you might and will in many cases be very surprised at the response you get and the truth is you have everything to gain and absolutely nothing to lose. If the man wants you he will walk over hot coals to get to you, but remember men also have to grow their feelings and at their pace. Slow.

Here is the part that I am very compelled to explain. Every situation is different, every reading, every man and woman, and every relationship, so before you decide what to do, I suggest you give me a call or another honest and accurate psychic and maybe even a male or new to you psychic, and ask some questions, being honest about your situation and asking good solid questions so that you know the next move you should make.. if you have been getting the “don’t call him”advise too often say that it is not the right move to wait but I can say for the most part that you need to think very hard about not calling. It is not an automatic thing. You must consult your advisor and ask why shouldn’t I call. You need a third party perspective so that your feelings do not block your normal thought process.

Don’t feel that not making that call first is a standard response. It can hurt your relationship more than help it. If you are unsure of this or what you should do then please take a few moments and call or chat with me. Allow me to give you the male point of view after reading him, and the situation. Yes maybe you should be waiting for him to call, but the truth is most of the time you should not be waiting, not if you want that man that makes your heart scream out, that makes you shake all over. I am also a hopeful romantic and I will always try my best first, to help you get you the man you want.

Love and Light,
PsychicAndrew

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