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Covid-19 Relationship Killer

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Well here we are The first day of July and instead of writing about all the new relationships that are out there blossoming in the fresh new, coming out of the lockdown life, I am here writing about how many of my clients are calling me and are literally in fear. In fear of what you may ask, well just about everything these days. Relationships have been falling by the wayside, I am getting so many calls about men who have run from relationships due to COVID-19, men who have used this sometimes as an excuse to either not see their person of interest, or to just break up altogether out of just not knowing what the future will hold, or over worries caused by this virus. Men worry about their jobs, their standing, their livelihoods. This is causing many relationship problems. Many men, and yes even some women, just can’t see the other person in real life at all. Factors such as work and underlying health issues keep them from touching each other and that is so important especially in new relationships. Many relationships that started out with two people being forced together for a while have blown up dues to not being able to have that space that all relationships need.

Basically now, people are just scared, scared of the unknown, and scared of everything they see happening. Speaking with so many people gives me a unique insight into what is on the minds of others. I do lots of readings so I have a very good sampling and I always ask my clients these days how they feel about this. Everyone is reacting a bit differently based on their age and circumstances so I wanted to share what I have heard from some of my clients and others about this pandemic. I have hopes that maybe hearing what others think about this might help others to understand the why of all of the things taking place around us.

I have this amazing client, she has a cleaning business that she has built herself from the ground up. Started as her first employee and now she is hiring so many others to work for her. she is a young girl also, I love the drive she has and she is going to be very successful, but she is also scared. She is worried about her business, and how to best deal with the pandemic, how to keep things going when things keep changing. When I asked her what her biggest fear was she said that she would not be able to work as much and get as many others to work for her. When I asked her what she knows about the coronavirus she was very well informed and pretty much had a good grasp of what was happening. In her words, relationship? who has time for all of that?

I also asked someone that was not a client, another young girl in her early twenties, she works in the restaurant business as well as going to school, she manages a relationship and is very driven, always trying to better herself. I love that in anyone, especially her. Being driven to better yourself is the key to a great life, she seems to have things pretty well in order. I asked her some questions about the pandemic and here is what I got back as far as answers.
I asked her about the bars and restaurants, if they were open or closed, especially now that the numbers of infected are jumping way up. Her answer was yes, restaurants are still open, no bars inside are allowed to serve alcohol, but they can still offer to be seated, and that bars can serve but they cant offer inside seating. She is in Florida where they have been pretty much open for a while. She said that when the restaurants reopened they were busy but since the new numbers were announced things slowed down again. More uncertainty. I asked her if she thought the protests and protesters may have spread this and caused the numbers to jump, this was answered with a quick no, I asked was it the bars like many are saying, or the opening up too fast, she again said no, and no. When I asked her what she thought was causing this she got very quiet and did not have an answer for me. I thank her for allowing me to ask her the questions. She is an amazing, smart, driven young women who always works to better herself, a great thing, but this young women and others that I have queried, is clearly showing me that the young people 18 to 30 just do not really think about this so much, as they tend to feel invincible.

I recently spoke with a more mature client, she is in her forties, and fighting to keep a long back and forth relationship going. Her person of interest has been declared an essential worker. He is around many people and in all the wrong places if you are looking to stay safe. This is causing multiple problems as she has two older parents that she takes care of, she has to balance contact with them versus contact with her guy, and this is also very hard to deal with. This is causing a great number of communication issues, and relationship problems not only with her guy but with her parents as well. She has to keep distance as to not get them sick, but you can’t just throw away personal relationships, so it becomes a balancing act. One that honestly I do not feel is working, but as with all my clients, I try to help no matter what. I help her look closely at what her priorities should be given the circumstances of her relationship, her man, her parents, and the COVID-19 virus. She is not sure what caused the numbers to explode again but says its a combination of people getting back to work, and yes she feels that many of the protesters did not wear masks and that also may have caused the spread.

My client I am speaking of now is again not in her twenties. Her perspective of the COVID-19 pandemic, especially with elderly parents with underlying conditions, is different from the younger people that I have spoken with. Younger people are more closely focused on themselves, and yes, building and bettering their lives as they should be at this point in their lives. The problem, however, is that like everything else in life, we are all interconnected in some way. This pandemic has linked us all together in a much larger way. What one of us does will affect the life of another even if you never met that person. In this case, when I say that it affects the lives of others I mean that literally, this is a life or death situation for so many. We do however need to take stock of what is really happening. Fear itself can cause more problems than what you may be afraid of, to begin with.

Now I want to get to the point of this post. You are going to hear so many different opinions, from so many different people. The younger generation is fearless, and that comes with great responsibility. If your going to be outside and interacting with others, at the very least have some compassion and empathy for others that may be more scared of this virus than you are.
Older people have a totally different view of much of this, they are so worried that they will get sick, they take all the precautions they can take, and still, the fact is that this pandemic and the COVID-19 virus is not going away anytime soon, and as much as you can protect yourself, unless you are going to just lock yourself away for, well who knows, then you are going to have to take some risks. Manage the risks, ask yourself if the risk is worth you hurting yourself or others you come in contact with. that choice is really up to the individual and I feel that’s where some of the thoughts about this by the younger people come from. They do not like to be told what to do. We are in a free country and we should not have to be told, what to wear, what to say, and so on and so forth, and yes I remember when I was their age and felt invincible, and would probably have felt the same as they do at their age.

Take everything you hear and do not panic, look around you and see with your own eyes what exactly is happening around you. If the television and news media are just pounding you with fear, turn the television or the news off, not forever, I am not suggesting that you bury your head in the sand, that is also happening, but I am suggesting that before you freak out and start doing things that are damaging to your life, love, relationship, think things through. Take a moment to reset, a day without news won’t kill you.
I am here to help you, to read the people in your life, to tell you what is happening with them, and help you make these life choices. You must not be in fear, when you are in fear your decision-making process goes out the door, and we all need to make really great decisions especially now. I am always here to help, so please relax, and let’s help one another through this pandemic.

Love And Light
Psychic Andrew

Love or Obsession

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Is it love, or are you just obsessed with someone? There is a word for this called Limerence. There are many clues that can lead you to the truth. Understanding what is going on with your feelings is the first step. If you do not take the time to understand “where you are” first, it will make it impossible to fix anything going forward, you become stuck. If you are not living in the real world today you can’t make your tomorrow better. If you have been living in a fantasy world, or a relationship bubble, that you have created in your mind, then you can not even begin to start making the changes needed in your life for a healthy and loving relationship.

This situation can be hard to extricate yourself from, especially when you do not understand what is happening and what you are really feeling. I am here to help you understand. Please take a moment and read below, and if this sounds like you, then call or chat with me right away so we can get you on the right path, that will allow you to have the right person in your life in a healthy and happy manner.

Below I have listed 10 clues that you may be obsessed with or in a state of limerence for another person. Take a moment and see what clues you can find that match your situation. Knowing the truth is the first step in making things better in your life and your relationships.

1. Even though the relationship between you two is nonexistent, virtual, or downright shallow, you find yourself constantly fantasizing about what your future together would look like no matter what has happened or not happened between you both in the past or present. Even if you have not had much personal contact with this person.

2. You find yourself lost in complex fantasies about this person, from the typical to the extreme. Your fantasies tend to have a “savior” element to them. You even imagine saving your “obsession” from dangerous situations.
Have you asked them Are you alright? Where were you? I was worried about you. Have you said this before? These are some things you might say to if you are in a state of limerence or obsession. Listen to what you say. You can find many clues in that way.

3. You may experience physical symptoms when around your person of interest when you are interacting with them in any way. You might feel anxious, or nervous when you’re waiting for their phone call, text, or any communication or response from them. You might have extreme heart palpitations, shortness of breath when you’re about to call them or when you are around them. Your voice may even change when talking with them from confident to needy, you become a different person.

4. You imagine and manufacture scenarios that will enable you to see or speak with this person. Excuses so you may call them repeatedly or even drive by their dwellings. You find all sorts of reasons talk to them. Whether that means hanging around their general neighborhood or their favorite bar, visiting unannounced, or even stalking them, forcing them, or trying to force them to give you attention or even just to talk to you for a moment. You plan your day, even maybe your week, around how you can spend time with them or might be able to spend time with them. This can range from cute to creepy and stalker-like, so be very careful if you’re doing anything like this..

5. You idealize them and make them into larger than life people, you put them on a pedestal. Everything they do, from the strange to the charming, gets flagged in your mind as evidence that they are an amazing, loveable human being. Even if they were the worst person on the planet, you’d rationalize their bad behavior and terrible, unsocial, or deplorable qualities as “adorable.” and go from speaking poorly of their real actions when you are upset about lack of contact, to speak about them as the greatest person ever, when they give you just a fragment of attention or communication, even a text works sometimes. They cant be both great and the worst. Only in your mind can they be both.

6. You’re excessive in the way you focus on them and everything they’re doing from who they talk too, how their day is going, what they are doing, what they may need, and their reactions to you (or lack thereof). Your whole day tends to revolve around them and interactions with them. This is “need” not love, this is an unhealthy obsession, limerence. This is also not a good look for you either. It is the opposite of attractive to a man. You are hurting any chances with that person when you do not control your actions or reactions. This is key to making things better.

7. You feel a special and overwhelming connection to them, almost like a gravitational pull. You believe they are your soulmate, or twin flame, even if you barely know each other or are rebuffed by your obsessive interest. No matter what, you feel the both of you are meant to be together. This type of limerence or fantasy bubble is holding you back from a healthy relationship.

8. Jealousy can occur even if the relationship is nonexistent or just a friendship. In your mind, you are connected, and things are getting better always. You feel irrationally jealous of potential romantic suitors, friends, or competition for your person of interest, even if it’s imaginary. You are also unable to fantasize about or date anyone else because you feel “bound” Spiritually Connected to them, even if there is no actual, tangible commitment. The huge danger here is jealousy will kill even the
most healthy relationships.

9. When the person withdraws from you or slows or stops contact, you sink into a deep dark feeling of depression and experience an overall sense of hopelessness. You experience mood swings, ranging from powerful highs of great superhuman happiness when you’re around this person, to absolutely unbearable lows, when you feel rejected or ignored by them. This feeling can happen when they are just not around you in some cases. It’s almost as if you were detoxing from a drug. Just like withdrawal symptoms.

10. You look very closely into their words and actions, reliving each word or action, each individual moment to find clues that this person feels the same way about you, as you think you do about them, even if that’s just fantasy and does not even exist. You only see the good, and you dismiss the bad, even if most of it is very bad. These clues that they feel the same about you, or care the same about you, may just be in your mind and are just the issue ar hand.

The issue, in this case, an actual real problem, is that you need to live closer to the reality of the situation and not in the fantasy bubble created and possibly now depending on how long you have been in this place embedded in your mind. This state of limerence is causing, an endless loop or merry-go-round that you just can’t get off of. You want the feeling the fantasy gives you but you know something is not quite right. The reality of the situation is not matching the fantasy of it. You may feel you can’t live without them in your life. You experience an unbearable and overwhelming longing for their affection, attention, and approval. This makes you do things that are just not controllable, and you must always take control of your actions, reactions, and thoughts. I can help you with all of this. That is one of the greatest things in life, the ability for you to make changes within yourself.

If you find that some, or most, of the listed situations above match your situation, then please take a moment and call or chat with me today. Let us start with a good full reading so you know where you are, and where you stand, then we can start fixing the things that will help you take control of your feelings and your life so that you may have happiness and real love in your life that you truly deserve.

Love and Light
Psychic Andrew

Don’t Push Your Relationship

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Since these are the days of the Covid-19 virus, and the self-imposed quarantine, that we are all trying to abide by, I decided that I’d better write this article for all of you women out there that think that you should always be pushing for more. I base this advice on so many reading, thousands, even tens of thousands. This is also based on readings with both women and men, it is also coming from my voice as well, yes I am a male, I’m a guy and us men, well we are not quite as good as you women are, especially when it comes to romance and relationships in general. This post, however, is going to be about asking or pushing for more while you are cooped up with your significant other. There are times to get more, I have ways that will help you do just that, but pushing for more, especially now, is not going to work.

Now for this, I am going to focus on the “on top of each other” situation that I am hearing about, from so many clients right now, during the Covid-19 Virus shutdown and quarantine. There are so many differences between men and women in the area of romance. I could never get all of that into one post, but that will be the general theme of this site, articles, and blog, so keep checking back and make sure you subscribe.

When a man is trapped, or let’s say “Feeling Trapped” that sounds much better. When a man feels this way, the very last thing you want to do is push for what I call more. More, if you do not understand what that is, well it means getting closer, sharing feelings, talking about the relationship and where it is and where it may be headed. Expressing feelings, sharing the way they feel, all of this is generally a tough subject anyway with many men, but when they have no way to exit or get that space they need, it can be a powder keg waiting to blow, don’t let your relationship explode. I always say to my clients call me first not after if you can. I can help you.

Men, no matter if your married, dating and confined together, living with each other, or any combination of this can be delicate, to begin with. Even long and healthy marriages need constant work to stay healthy, and men need that space to handle things sometimes, and if things are not so good with your relationship at this moment, and you feel you are going to take advantage of the time together to make that next jump, then think again. This is not the time to push for more, and there are other reasons to not do this based on many other circumstances, but let us just say that for now, in these days, with the unknown fears in our minds, in his mind, the last thing a man wants to think about is the relationship. Romance is even tough, be happy with enjoying the moments, especially now. Pick your time wisely and be well educated about how he will react to more. I’m very good with that help.

I know that statement about not using this time for relationship growth feels counter-intuitive to many women. Women may feel this is the perfect time to ask for more, to get closer to each other. Do not fall into this trap. I warn you.
Make sure we are all safe and healthy and working again before we get so hyper-focused on the relationship. I am here to read you, your person of interest, and your relationship. I can then help you find the best way, and the best time, to get closer to your man. I am very good at this, they don’t call me “The Romance Psychic” for nothing.

Use this time together to show him that you respect him as a person and his space, without making yourself seem like another pressure, because, most people, and yes especially men, when it comes to money and work, we get very upset when that area of our life is not under control. This Covid-19 pandemic is not helping, everyone is worried and men are thinking so much about how to keep that paycheck coming in. He could be very worried, depending on what he does for a job, things are changing fast. He may be hiding his feelings, that’s another area where I can help you, You see, us men, we hide feelings, when women can be more expressive and express their feelings. Men are very different than women and that is why I am here.
Stay safe, healthy and happy. Wash your hands.

Love And Light
Psychic Andrew

Covid-19 And Spirituality

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No, this may not be about romance or psychic readings but I felt the need to write my feelings down, and I thought no better place than my blog and site.

I want to start by saying that I’m on my second week of self-imposed quarantine, I have been watching the news like so many other people, and it just brings tears to my eyes, to see what is happening in the world today, both tears of sadness and tears of great joy and hope.

I don’t mean the Coronavirus exactly. I don’t mean the panic and the hoarding, and all crazy stuff you see in our world the way it is now. The truth is that many people are out for just themselves, self-preservation and all that nonsense. I have seen masks being sold for 50 dollars each, yes a 1 dollar mask, I have seen hand sanitizer sell for what premium spirits would sell for.
I see people not squeezing the Charmin, but grabbing for it in a wild frenzy. I mean what’s going on out there. What about our humanity, well it is alive and well, and there are many signs of this. Selfless acts of random kindness, the all so nice, have a great day, or blessings, or thank you, even that has become scarce and now it is back. This is a great thing. The virus that brought us together. Who could have thought this? I could have, and most of us should have. Whenever things threaten us we come together as a country, as a people, and a world eventually. Spirituality is rampant now.

What I have noticed is all that yes there are some bad people out there still just focused on themselves, and I am not surprised as this is the norm, but what I have also seen is people from all walks of life, from every state, city, and town, of every color, religious background, and yes every political affiliation as well, I have seen these people come together in a spiritual explosion something that has been well needed in this country and beyond for quite some time. I honestly was starting to think that this was not even possible anymore. It took a virus to bring us together. and I feel that at least in part, this coming together is something that will stay. I am so happy about that, amidst all the problems that we are overcoming day by day, and all the fear inside of us, we still come together for the common survival and good of our people. We can overcome everything, if we just join together spiritually, that will lead us to the rest, to the actions that better us as a species. To absolute joy and happiness. To be a more spiritual person.

Spirituality means many things. The dictionary has a few definitions, and I chose this one. It defines spirituality as “the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things“. I like that definition. It says it all, it means that you care about the person, the people, the other, before any care of personal or physical possessions. That is very hard for many human beings. We have that self-preservation built-in, and we have different levels of spirituality, and yes compassion for others.

Spirituality is a goal for everyone, and if not for you, then it should be. Before any of us can have the things we want and aspire to in our life, before we can have that perfect partner in crime, that love of your life, it is my belief that we must first have some level of spirituality in our lives. I help people get to that place. Spirituality will save us all from the parts of life that have become commonplace and are just not spiritual at all.

I think its a shame and a blessing, to have a virus, a deadly pandemic as the spark that ignites us all to come together, but never the less the pandemic is here, and we will beat this back as a people, we will overcome this like we do all things in life, when we all come together, and work as one.
Become more spiritual and you will see your life improve in every way.

These days please try and put the other first, if just for that moment. Think about the person in front of you, beside you, and behind you. You neighbors, your friends, and yes the stranger that may need just a little help in these times of trouble and fear for many. Please keep the faith, stay spiritually in tune, do not panic. Think clearly about how you can do your part to make another’s life a little better. If we all do that then this pandemic will have not hurt us, but it will have helped us. We will bounce back, as a people, as a nation, and as a world. Be that spiritual person you know you can be, and if your scared and need someone to talk with, help clarify things, bring you comfort in the form of spirituality, then please call or chat with me today.
You can also leave a comment, I will be happy to answer you. I wish all people the spirituality, and the perseverance, they need in these troubled times.

Love and Light
Psychic Andrew

Covid-19 And Relationships

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The Coronavirus, also known as Covid-19, will have an everlasting effect on our lives and our relationships. The amount of change in our lives at this time is yet to be seen, but I am already starting to get readings from my family of clients asking me about problems they are having associated with all the stress and pressure in their everyday lives and now this as well. Covid-19 as an additional pressure in your life? Another really big problem to deal with.
Do not worry I can help. There is quite a bit of self-quarantine, and distancing going on as well. This is starting to produce problems with contact, communication, and in some cases giving the other person in your relationship, an excuse to stay away or distance himself from you. We need to not allow this to happen.

The opposite of this is also being seen in many of my readings. Instead of distancing many couples who live together are now having to be on top of each other. This can be a bad thing, and I know many of my female clients say to me that this will help them get closer, and maybe allow them to spend more quality time together, but when you are stressed out and worried about real-world problems, a relationship is the last thing on a man’s mind, and getting closer can feel like a huge weight on a man’s chest, so go easy on the way you think about this, and allow me to read you, your significant other, and the relationship so I can help guide you down a smooth path.

This is the very start here in the United States of this Covid-19 pandemic. Things will, and already are changing. I can tell this from my readings. This is just the start. I am going to continue to write about this in real-time. I will write more about what is happening and how this is going to affect your relationship and relationships in general. I do believe that all relationships are unique however, we can generalize in some ways of course, but relationships can not be put into a neat little box and marked general, normal, or anything else. I can tell you from over 40 thousand readings at the very least, that each and every relationship, romance, and marriage are very different, and that is the most important reason to get a reading from me so that you can see from a unique point of view, where your relationship is, where it is headed, and how you can change things to make your relationship better. I can help you no matter what the problem is. Whether your feeling closed in or feeling far away, it does not matter which. I can help you understand your relationship and the problems or feelings that are hindering it, and help you make your life, and your relationship better. Things do not need to remain the same.

This is an interactive blog you know, please feel free to start or join in the discussion. Leave a comment and it will be posted below, others can see it and they can reply as well. Many people all over the world are going to be stuck inside their home, we are all going to have to understand that this brings changes, so use this as a forum, a way to let something out that your holding onto. Use this to ask me any question that you don’t mind asking in public, just add your comments to this or any post. I will continue to write more about this subject as things ramp up here in the United States. I never give medical advice, I leave that to the medical professionals. If you need or want any information on Covid-19 also known as the Coronavirus, please
visit www.cdc.gov

Love and Light
Psychic Andrew