Is it love, or are you just obsessed with someone? There is a word for this called Limerence. There are many clues that can lead you to the truth. Understanding what is going on with your feelings is the first step. If you do not take the time to understand “where you are” first, it will make it impossible to fix anything going forward, you become stuck. If you are not living in the real world today you can’t make your tomorrow better. If you have been living in a fantasy world, or a relationship bubble, that you have created in your mind, then you can not even begin to start making the changes needed in your life for a healthy and loving relationship.
This situation can be hard to extricate yourself from, especially when you do not understand what is happening and what you are really feeling. I am here to help you understand. Please take a moment and read below, and if this sounds like you, then call or chat with me right away so we can get you on the right path, that will allow you to have the right person in your life in a healthy and happy manner.
Below I have listed 10 clues that you may be obsessed with or in a state of limerence for another person. Take a moment and see what clues you can find that match your situation. Knowing the truth is the first step in making things better in your life and your relationships.
1. Even though the relationship between you two is nonexistent, virtual, or downright shallow, you find yourself constantly fantasizing about what your future together would look like no matter what has happened or not happened between you both in the past or present. Even if you have not had much personal contact with this person.
2. You find yourself lost in complex fantasies about this person, from the typical to the extreme. Your fantasies tend to have a “savior” element to them. You even imagine saving your “obsession” from dangerous situations.
Have you asked them Are you alright? Where were you? I was worried about you. Have you said this before? These are some things you might say to if you are in a state of limerence or obsession. Listen to what you say. You can find many clues in that way.
3. You may experience physical symptoms when around your person of interest when you are interacting with them in any way. You might feel anxious, or nervous when you’re waiting for their phone call, text, or any communication or response from them. You might have extreme heart palpitations, shortness of breath when you’re about to call them or when you are around them. Your voice may even change when talking with them from confident to needy, you become a different person.
4. You imagine and manufacture scenarios that will enable you to see or speak with this person. Excuses so you may call them repeatedly or even drive by their dwellings. You find all sorts of reasons talk to them. Whether that means hanging around their general neighborhood or their favorite bar, visiting unannounced, or even stalking them, forcing them, or trying to force them to give you attention or even just to talk to you for a moment. You plan your day, even maybe your week, around how you can spend time with them or might be able to spend time with them. This can range from cute to creepy and stalker-like, so be very careful if you’re doing anything like this..
5. You idealize them and make them into larger than life people, you put them on a pedestal. Everything they do, from the strange to the charming, gets flagged in your mind as evidence that they are an amazing, loveable human being. Even if they were the worst person on the planet, you’d rationalize their bad behavior and terrible, unsocial, or deplorable qualities as “adorable.” and go from speaking poorly of their real actions when you are upset about lack of contact, to speak about them as the greatest person ever, when they give you just a fragment of attention or communication, even a text works sometimes. They cant be both great and the worst. Only in your mind can they be both.
6. You’re excessive in the way you focus on them and everything they’re doing from who they talk too, how their day is going, what they are doing, what they may need, and their reactions to you (or lack thereof). Your whole day tends to revolve around them and interactions with them. This is “need” not love, this is an unhealthy obsession, limerence. This is also not a good look for you either. It is the opposite of attractive to a man. You are hurting any chances with that person when you do not control your actions or reactions. This is key to making things better.
7. You feel a special and overwhelming connection to them, almost like a gravitational pull. You believe they are your soulmate, or twin flame, even if you barely know each other or are rebuffed by your obsessive interest. No matter what, you feel the both of you are meant to be together. This type of limerence or fantasy bubble is holding you back from a healthy relationship.
8. Jealousy can occur even if the relationship is nonexistent or just a friendship. In your mind, you are connected, and things are getting better always. You feel irrationally jealous of potential romantic suitors, friends, or competition for your person of interest, even if it’s imaginary. You are also unable to fantasize about or date anyone else because you feel “bound” Spiritually Connected to them, even if there is no actual, tangible commitment. The huge danger here is jealousy will kill even the
most healthy relationships.
9. When the person withdraws from you or slows or stops contact, you sink into a deep dark feeling of depression and experience an overall sense of hopelessness. You experience mood swings, ranging from powerful highs of great superhuman happiness when you’re around this person, to absolutely unbearable lows, when you feel rejected or ignored by them. This feeling can happen when they are just not around you in some cases. It’s almost as if you were detoxing from a drug. Just like withdrawal symptoms.
10. You look very closely into their words and actions, reliving each word or action, each individual moment to find clues that this person feels the same way about you, as you think you do about them, even if that’s just fantasy and does not even exist. You only see the good, and you dismiss the bad, even if most of it is very bad. These clues that they feel the same about you, or care the same about you, may just be in your mind and are just the issue ar hand.
The issue, in this case, an actual real problem, is that you need to live closer to the reality of the situation and not in the fantasy bubble created and possibly now depending on how long you have been in this place embedded in your mind. This state of limerence is causing, an endless loop or merry-go-round that you just can’t get off of. You want the feeling the fantasy gives you but you know something is not quite right. The reality of the situation is not matching the fantasy of it. You may feel you can’t live without them in your life. You experience an unbearable and overwhelming longing for their affection, attention, and approval. This makes you do things that are just not controllable, and you must always take control of your actions, reactions, and thoughts. I can help you with all of this. That is one of the greatest things in life, the ability for you to make changes within yourself.
If you find that some, or most, of the listed situations above match your situation, then please take a moment and call or chat with me today. Let us start with a good full reading so you know where you are, and where you stand, then we can start fixing the things that will help you take control of your feelings and your life so that you may have happiness and real love in your life that you truly deserve.
Love and Light
Psychic Andrew
